I place more value on time than on money. Although most of my relationships have been long-lasting, some have not. Some relationships have been occasional and, thus, have felt tenuous. Other relationships have been tumultuous. In the past, when I spent time with the people in these somewhat complicated relationships, I’d wonder about the temporal nature of our relationship or when I would see them, again. Even in great relationships, people leave. People move on, move away and pass away. When my grandad died unexpectedly, I felt as though I had been robbed of time. Now, I see that I don’t (necessarily) decide how much time I get to spend with loved ones.
My beloved Tolkien says (through his character Gandalf), “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” Often have I worried about circumstances and scenarios beyond my control and about decisions that weren’t mine to make. I can only make decisions about the time given to me.